He Wants These 3 Things from You Instead…
Many women spend an incredible amount of time trying to become the kind of woman they believe a man wants. As a woman, you spend time making yourself look attractive and appealing to men. You make sure that you are coming off as fun, intelligent, worldly, and definitely not needy. You want to make sure that men know that you would be suitable for them. That you will make his future amazing if he chooses to keep you by his side. And yet, it doesn’t work. It never works. You still find yourself single and unhappy.
Why does this happen?
Why is it that you can work so hard, and the guy you want still isn’t noticing you? And if he does notice you, he just takes you for granted and doesn’t appreciate you at all. You’ve likely told yourself it’s because he is immature and doesn’t know a good thing when it is right in front of him.
But what if it’s not him at all. What if it’s because you have been doing all the work for him.
If He Doesn’t Have to Do Any Work for Your Relationship, He Will Never Value It.
Here is an Interesting Fact:
Men value the things that they work for. They value the things that don’t come easy.
If a man is handed a promotion, he will not value it. But, if he has worked hard for years to earn that promotion, he will appreciate it. The same thing holds true for their relationships. If you hand a man, the perfect girlfriend, he will not value her as much as he will if he has to work to get her attention. This is why playing hard to get is so much more effective.
However, as you can probably guess, there is a problem with playing hard to get. Once he has actually successfully gotten you, the strategy will no longer work. And for some reason, once guys have decided that they have won you, they figure the game is over. And their minds are moving on to the next challenge. So how can you prevent this from wreaking your relationship?
You Aren’t Alone. All Women Experience This Problem
Women who struggle to keep a man’s attention are often quick to decide that they are done with men. They are no longer willing to get too close to a man because they will just scare him off. Other women take a different approach. They ask for help.
James Bauer is a relationship coach. And he is one of many who have women come to him complaining that their men were blowing hot and cold. Things would be going great, and then, suddenly, things would change… The man who was warm and affectionate and showering her with attention would just stop. He would no longer have time for her, forget to call her. Stop doing the little things he used to do. His kisses would become brusque.
James knew he had to help his client. He needed to figure out why this was happening to women. So, he investigated, and his discoveries changed everything.
James was able to figure out why these men were suddenly pulling away from their girlfriends. He knew what these men needed and what they weren’t getting from the women in their lives. There wasn’t anything inherently wrong with these women. Or with the men in their lives. It all came down to something James refers to as “The Hero Instinct.”
Many Women Are Doing this Without Realizing It… And It is Driving Their Men Away
Women are naturally caring. It is one of the most amazing things about them. Think about it, you are always there for your man. You put him first. You take care of him. You always have time for him. What you don’t realize is that in the process of making sure that you are always there for him, you are taking something incredibly important away from him. You are taking away his purpose.
Men aren’t looking for a hero. In fact, he wants to be your hero. Men are obsessed with heroes. Marvel comics and superhero movies aren’t just for kids. Men never outgrow these things. And it’s because, from the time he was a little boy, he has dreamed of growing up to be the kind of hero who will save the world and get the girl while they do it.
Now most men don’t have the kind of job that requires them to save the world. And even more, don’t have the kind of life where they are going to be ripping off their corporate ties and rushing out like Superman to save the day.
So, men can’t save the world. At least not in the way the superheroes do in the movies. But they are more than able to get the girl. Getting the girl is enough of a challenge for a guy with the heart of a superhero. After all, it takes superhero-like confidence and charm. And a superhuman immunity to pain.
Now Comes the Hard Part. He Needs to Find a Girl Who Needs a Hero. Are You that Girl? Do You Need a Hero?
Chances are, you don’t need a hero. In fact, needing a hero is exactly the kind of woman you are striving not to be. You are strong and independent. You can take care of yourself regardless of if that means fixing a leaky faucet, hanging a picture, or repairing a wall. You aren’t looking for a man who is going to complete you. You don’t need a man. You want a man.
You want a man. A man who wants all the things you have to give. And that is why you are in the position you are in. This is why you aren’t attracting heroes into your life, and instead, you are attracting takers.
If you want to bring a man into your life who is a hero, you need to show that you are looking for one. Here’s how.
3 Ways You Can Invite a Hero Into Your Life, Starting Today
1. Ask a guy for help.
Ask him for advice on buying a new computer. Ask him to listen to that weird rattling sound that’s started up in your car. Ask him to reach something on the top shelf. Then thank him warmly, with a great big smile of appreciation. No, that doesn’t make you needy. It makes you a woman with space for a man in her life.
2. Take pleasure in male company.
Guys love women who appreciate men for just being men. So what if his apartment is a shrine to sports? So what if he spends hours on his fantasy football team? So what if his idea of a clean shirt is the one with the fewest wrinkles? He’s a guy. It’s okay. You don’t need him to be more like you, because you’ve got the feminine side of the gender equation covered.
3. Let him earn your respect.
Superheroes love challenges. They don’t want to be given a gold medal just for showing up. They don’t want your love handed to them on a plate. They want to earn it. There’s one thing they crave even more than a woman’s eternal enduring love: A challenge.
So give him opportunities to prove himself. You don’t have to do the work of winning him over. Sit back, relax, and allow him the pleasure of winning your admiration.
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